How to survive social mobbing at the workplace

Social mobbing is a social psychological term that refers to bullying of an individual in a social context like school, work, community, or residence. The mobbing tendencies in the workplace include: persistent and drawn-out harassment or intimidation, humiliation, social exclusion, being purposefully misled work duties, unclear direction, incorrect dates, criticism, and incorrect reporting among others. The perilous query is why people engage in such barbaric actions. Various researchers on this topic have consigned the chronic abnormal behaviors to; narcissistic personality, inferiority complex, jealousy, and poor institutional infrastructures. The long-term impact of social mobbing on an individual causes anxiety at the workplace, persistent insecurity, and weakness. In a workplace, a lack of established ethical values and culture has contributed to untold ill actions among the employees themselves and employers to employees.…
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Healthy Steps to Differentiation of self in relationships

Differentiation of self is a concept by Bowen’s system theory (1950’s) which explains an individual’s capacity to be flexible and act wisely, and maintaining one’s sense of self whether close to or a great distance from others. In simple terms, it refers to a process of not losing connection to self while holding a deep connection to others, including those you love when their views may differ from yours. Bowen conceptualized two levels of differentiation high and low. People who have low differentiation or undifferentiated have the following characteristics; emotional reaction, impulsive behavior, dependency on others, conflict easily with people, low autonomy, and increased emotional reactivity to those around them. These traits make social relationships very difficult for people with low differentiation of self. On the other hand, a differentiated…
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Grief work

Grief work

Grief work: refers to the healthy process of working through the emotions associated with loss to free oneself from attachment to the lost object or person, and readjust to the new situation, and go back to normal functioning, form new relationships. The usual experience involves the following stages; Reaction to the loss in shock- this happens mostly when the type of loss was unexpected and in other terms as the reality of the loss begins to dawn on a person. The common symptoms of the shock can be disbelief, denial, and defense mechanisms towards the loss. Survivor guilty –feelings of guilt because one is still alive or doing well while others are not. In this case, the survivor may feel undeserving of opportunities or life. Survivor guilt is part of…
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Good grief

Good grief

Grief can become good! However, this is not a natural happening it occurs once a person has successfully gone through grief work for their loss. There can be positive aspects of grief where it increases self-awareness, love, and cohesion among the people who have encountered loss. Good grief means that we have learned and grown in our bereavement and can live above the loss. Unlike the orthodox interpretation, that time heals and so does keeping busy; the restructuring of new meaning about the loss and completing the unfinished business heals better. The cycle of good grief starts with the survivor assimilating the reality that loss has occurred, they express the emotional pain of the loss, cultivate new strategies for coping with the loss, and develop new beliefs and attitudes about…
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Ways to overcome suicidal ideations

Ways to overcome suicidal ideations

Suicidal ideation is the preoccupation with the idea of death where a person may regularly think or plan about the way they would commit suicide or have failed attempts. The major cause of suicidal ideation is unresolved psychological conflicts. Some symptoms that define suicidal ideation include Isolating oneself from loved ones, Feeling hopeless and helpless, obsessions with thoughts about death or suicide, engaging in risky behaviors like excess violence, drug use, risky sexual behaviors, dangerous driving, Access to the means to kill oneself, such as medication, drugs, or a firearm, inflicting self-harm in various ways like hunger strikes, self-cutting, inflicting pain, etc. Suicidal ideations often lead to suicide intents which are thoughts of killing oneself with details of the plan fully or partially worked out. This is a reasonably open…
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Mindful sexual safety

Mindful sexual safety

Sexual crimes are on the increase from even the most unpredictable places and people. The truth of the matter is that sexual offenses are traumatic, horrific, and evil happenings that can take a very long time to heal. However, being on the alert can help provide safety measures against sex predators while at the same time remaining safe. Prayer keeps away the devil and his agents- always remember to pray for your safety and believe God to protect you and give you the wisdom to make the right decision at the right time.Do not walk on lonely paths- it is safer to walk on roads where there other pedestrians, or arrange other alternative means if you have to use the particular roads.Keep relatively fair time in terms of being early…
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THE STORY BEHIND EVERY MENTAL DISORDER AND DYSFUNCTION

THE STORY BEHIND EVERY MENTAL DISORDER AND DYSFUNCTION

Every mental disorder has a story that defines its cause, as a therapist most times I like to follow the unconscious part which is the unknown story behind the disorder. In this excerpt, I choose to focus on the bio-psychosocial model. The model in simplistic terms combines the biological, social, psychological, and spiritual factors as causes of extreme dysfunctions in an individual. Therefore, do not look far when dealing with any mental health issue, the story will lie somewhere in the bio-psychosocial model. For some people, this story is vividly known, while for others help is needed to point it out. Thus, mental disorders would never exist in a vacuum, the causal factors challenge a person’s ability to overcome on their own. Biological Theory Types of biological abnormalities include: 1.…
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<strong>How to overcome the frustrating simple losses in every day</strong>

How to overcome the frustrating simple losses in every day

Have you gone through the small common losses which seem to occur every day; loss of keys, a paper you just typed and did not save it correctly, items you want to use, a shoe, particular clothing you want to wear, and many more. The thing about the small losses is the frequency and the frustration it can cause in the day. For some people, it is possible to snap out of the loss and move on with life while for others the process may take longer. The annoying bit is that the small losses can keep appearing and frustrating your life if unchecked. Here are the steps to overcome the frustrating simple losses in everyday Commit your day to the Lord He orders our day and plans-the reasons why…
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Not every dream is worth your attention

Not every dream is worth your attention

I write on this interesting topic so liberally because that’s how we should think about it. In my line of work as a therapist, I have met clients weighed down by scary and, tormenting dreams that almost render them dysfunctional because of the level of attention they chose to give them. From a psychological point of view, dreams occur during sleep in two durations:  (REM sleep) the deep sleep and non-REM sleep (light sleep). The dreams that occur during deep sleep are not usually remembered because of the low levels of brain activity. Nonetheless, from research, various scientists point that the said dreams are usually very positive and full of wonderful memories which we can never recount in the conscious state. On the other hand, the dreams that occur during…
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